When we think about what shapes our personalities and life paths, parents usually get most of the credit—or the blame. But what if the people who have the biggest impact on us are actually the ones who shared our bedrooms, our toys, and our childhood secrets? This Mother’s Day, we turn our attention to the underestimated power of sibling relationships. Drawing from Susan Dominus’s insightful reporting and emerging research, we uncover how siblings can quietly but powerfully shape each other’s futures.
The Sibling Spillover Effect
Researchers have a name for the way siblings influence one another: the sibling spillover effect. It refers to the way children’s personalities and behaviors can “spill over” and affect their brothers and sisters, especially in academics. In families where resources are tight and parents are busy, siblings often rely on one another for guidance, support, and even ambition. These dynamics are more than anecdotal—they’ve been measured in studies and seen to have lasting impacts, especially in lower-income households.
It’s Not All About Birth Order
For years, people have believed in the power of birth order: the idea that the firstborn is the leader, the middle child the peacemaker, and the youngest the wild card. But modern research says otherwise. While oldest children may appear more responsible, it’s often because they’re compared to younger siblings who are still developing. Across broader population samples, personality traits don't reliably align with birth order.
Finding Their Own Lane
If older siblings tend to shine academically, younger ones often carve out their niche elsewhere—like in sports or the arts. Psychologists suggest this may be their way of creating a unique identity. It’s not just about rivalry; it’s about belonging and achievement in a space they can claim for themselves.
The Power (and Pitfalls) of Parental Assumptions
Well-meaning parents can sometimes unintentionally reinforce sibling roles. Labeling one child as “the smart one” or “the athletic one” can impact confidence, grades, and even extracurricular choices. Research shows that these labels can become self-fulfilling prophecies—even when they’re inaccurate.
Nature, Nurture—and Everything In Between
Susan Dominus’s reporting also touches on the delicate balance of genetics and environment. Our DNA may give us certain inclinations, but our environment—including our siblings—can shape how those inclinations develop. It's not just nature versus nurture; it’s a complex feedback loop.
Think about the role your siblings played in your journey. Whether they challenged you, supported you, or inspired you in quiet ways, their influence may have helped shape the person you are today. Curious about how family dynamics influence growth? Read more about Susan Dominus’s The Family Dynamic for a deep dive into the science behind sibling relationships.
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